Analysing

I'm an analyst. I analyse thoughts, people, behaviour, dreams... pretty much anything I encounter in my life. I guess it subconsciously gives me a feeling of control over my life or the things that happen? 

It seems like a good thing and some friends approach me for analysis, but sometimes it makes me feel like a stranger in my own body and mind. Even family members or people close to me(and myself) will be analysed by...I guess my mind? Or another part of myself? Every person I meet or see, I immediately categorize in some way in order to achieve personal gain or an edge in any competitive scenario. Or I just analyse their behaviour and then reflect it on me, trying to predict possible near-future scenarios between me and this person. 

For example, if I am single and on a date, before even meeting a person, I analyze their eyes, the look in their eyes, the kind of personality or strength or weakness I can perceive in them. I then continue to analyse while talking/writing to/with them. As I meet them, I may have to adjust my sometimes somewhat condescending or arrogant opinion (usually feeling superior, sometimes inferior) about them or admit new found respect for skills or talents I hadn't picked up on. 

All of this keeps happening basically all the time. Not always is it something that I am very much aware of (rather the exception), but everytime I catch myself, it makes me feel strange. I then wonder: Do other people do this too?

This is also how I constantly analyse or judge myself, as I reflect my own constant need to analyze and assume that the other person those the same.

For example, if I do feel a certain interest for whatever reason in another person, I keep thinking which thought or feeling my words or actions will cause and if those are intrinsically to my goals. I will however also think of myself as rather weak or needy if I catch myself getting too emotional, for instance being impatiently waiting for a response or worrying that my last response may cause them to end all communication, assuming they analyse/judge me as well. 

Having these moments makes me wonder if the reason I analyse so much is in order to avoid certain feelings. And if I am so good at it and I have a self awareness of certain flaws, should I try to change them? Who's to say if by changing them, as bad as they may seem to me, I might actually destroy parts of my personality others perceive as positive or pleasing? 

Maybe all this analysing is just an attempt to always predict any possible scenario in order to avoid disappointment, stemming from childhood trauma and need for affirmation and acknowledgement? And thus a heightened need for love, as well as affirmation? But if so, would letting go or at least massively reducing the constant analysis be the eventual goal?